tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273621419065170368.post4477895266530771950..comments2023-10-26T06:47:03.069-07:00Comments on The Catch of The Century: MusingsDasanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14206303935122056105noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273621419065170368.post-25272078498069569922008-09-16T20:14:00.000-07:002008-09-16T20:14:00.000-07:00I really don't think it was a rule, per-say. She ...I really don't think it was a rule, per-say. She BELIEVES that she can't connect with guys she has sex with, it's not "I don't have sex with guys I actually like" it's "I'm worried that if we do this, you won't like me anymore and I'll be wrong again about another guy, how can I trust that you won't hurt me" <BR/><BR/>Which is the message that I get out of it, having had time to think about it. Still working on the listening skills :)Dasanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14206303935122056105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273621419065170368.post-60365226685637846592008-09-16T17:36:00.000-07:002008-09-16T17:36:00.000-07:00Sounds like a pretty silly rule if you ask me.For ...Sounds like a pretty silly rule if you ask me.<BR/><BR/>For LMR like this with specific objections you can typically reframe to make her feel like she's not braking any rules.<BR/><BR/>In this case I would have made a distinction between "the me you're having sex with" and "the me you connect with"<BR/><BR/>The point is to fulfill both her needs and yours. If a girl doesn't have sex on the first date, we'll have three dates on the first day. If she's a virgin and wants to stay that way, she can still be a virgin after I have sex with her.Halffullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07306528558984229222noreply@blogger.com